Dear Abby: My husband’s negativity is dragging me down with him
DEAR ABBY While the saying goes no man is an island I beg to differ as I am married to one Related Articles Dear Abby Because of what was stated in the group text my sister ditched half our family Dear Abby I picked my baby s name and now I m notified a hypothetical child has dibs Dear Abby I slapped my boyfriend s grandfather so hard he fell off his chair Dear Abby I commented I d be in their wedding but I m so upset by the processional plan Dear Abby If I answer truthfully to what s new they start crying My husband has little to no patience with anyone family included He has inevitably been negative and as he grows older it has grown times worse Over the past years my husband has alienated greater part of his our friends to the point where he no longer has any contact with them He literally walks away from them in inhabitants While I know a lot of people are super narcissistic this day I feel you have to put up with certain of at present s BS I m not super social myself but his rudeness has gotten out of hand Our social life is nil It may be a incident of depression he s on a multitude of medications It s wearing me down and I m afraid I m sinking down with him Is there a resolution GOING DOWN TOO DEAR GOING Because your husband has mental healthcare issues this should be discussed with a medical professional A different medication and talk therapy might help him if he would consent to it Please consider consulting someone for yourself to help you decide if you want to spend the rest of your life being this isolated Nothing will change if you don t become proactive DEAR ABBY I have been dating a man for years He s divorced I am a widow We get along well and enjoy a great number of programs together The concern is his -year-old daughter She is very rude and unkind to me He tells me it is not me she would treat any female companion of his this way With the holidays approaching I spoke to him about what our plans will be During the past two years his ex-wife and daughter have controlled bulk of the get-togethers saying that I was not invited to join them for a Christmas Eve dinner I don t want to be controlling like his ex and daughter but I would like us to be part of the plans as a couple At this point he s unable to decide what we will do He s trying to mend the relationship with his daughter but I m pretty sure it won t improve until she s ready to accept her dad having another partner in his life I want this relationship to work out We are talking about living together and possibly getting married but I m not sure if we should consider this until his situation with his daughter improves Any advice SEEKING INCLUSION IN CALIFORNIA Related Articles Asking Eric I feel like I should summary my neighbor before he hurts someone Harriette Cole Should I tell the bride why I m uneasy Miss Manners I think it s hurtful to ban children from weddings Our pediatrician agrees Dear Abby Because of what was revealed in the group text my sister ditched half our family Asking Eric Why should a grandmother have to let the kids interrupt DEAR SEEKING Your gentleman friend s daughter should not have been allowed to treat any woman he was seeing disrespectfully His mistake has been ceding his power to someone who is emotionally immature and unwilling to see her father in a happy healthy relationship Give him a deadline to decide how he is going to spend the holidays If it isn t with you take a vacation at that time You are intelligent to put the brakes on living together until he resolves this issue preferably with input from a licensed mental wellness professional Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
