Dear Abby: Our father was a terrible person, but I still can’t get behind my sister’s plan
DEAR ABBY My father was a terrible person Related Articles Dear Abby He died in my house and I feel so guilty Dear Abby Am I out of line to clean my hosts house Dear Abby The minister s surprise marriage left me hurt and heartbroken Dear Abby Every day he mentioned he was going to his job but I ascertained out it was a lie Dear Abby Mom is avoiding us siblings Is she hiding something He was physically abusive to his wife and kids and he sexually abused both of my sisters He was a vicious bully who took every opportunity to humiliate his children and took pleasure in destroying things we worked hard for No one in the family is sad that he s no longer with us majority of of us are happy to move on One of my sisters however wants to have a big party to celebrate the th anniversary of his death She envisions a celebratory dinner at a fancy restaurant followed by a party at her house complete with a contest for throwing darts at his picture I don t miss our father any more than she does and I understand her raw hatred of him But I also don t have any interest in going to that kind of an event nor does any of our other siblings We think it s past time to move on and celebrating his death is not moving on My sister has made clear that if we don t attend she will view it as not being supportive of her and won t ever speak to us again What do you think about all of this Must the rest of us go to her event or should we take a pass knowing she largest part likely will cut us out of her life BEYOND THAT IN FLORIDA DEAR BEYOND THAT You and your siblings are fortunate to have been able to move forward from the trauma you suffered at the hands of your father Your sister obviously hasn t been so fortunate She s wrong to threaten you with excommunication if you refuse her invitation to a death day party for the abuser I hope none of you knuckle under As a victim of abuse she could use intensive counseling and I hope at various point she ll reach out for it The way she s headed now she will soon isolate herself comprehensively from the family DEAR ABBY I am a -year-old mother of four dating a -year-old man He is the youngest guy I ve ever dated I usually date men my age or older After my kids father left me for another woman after years of being together I was broken I didn t date for two years as I tried to heal Then comes along this younger guy whom I ve grown to love This man has no children and doesn t seem like a guy I should be with according to society but I love him and he loves me very much I keep quiet about him when it comes to my mother and family out of fear of judgment Should I tell them about him or just keep him hidden as he would say IN LOVE IN THE SOUTH Related Articles Asking Eric I skipped her birthday because of the fee and she reacted poorly Harriette Cole My uncle says the crash was an accident and he won t pay for my car Miss Manners My fiance picked one of my bridesmaids and it s a woman I don t like Dear Abby He died in my house and I feel so guilty Asking Eric People say I m rude Should I tell them why that is DEAR IN LOVE Keeping him hidden is insulting to the man you have been seeing At years old you should be mature enough to live your life openly The age difference is not so great that it should be a cause for concern If the issue is that he comes from a different custom or racial background you may have to stand up and defend your choice Because you love each other you should not be keeping him hidden You have nothing to be ashamed about Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
